Overcoming Insecurity: Embrace Your Unique Self

In our life we are all insecure about something about our body. Insecurity can sound be like “how fatty I am looking”, “how skinny I am”, “how short I am”, “I look ugly” and this list never ends. Overcoming insecurity is challenging because these all question and doubt stop our personal growth, decreasing self-confidence.

Wait for one minute and ask yourself what your insecurity, what’s your doubts, and what makes you feel insecure

What is Insecurity?

Insecurity simply means to low self-esteem, You know where this insecurity comes from? By scrolling social media, comparing yourself, being bullied in school and college, and negative self-talk.

An insecure person always feels anxious, hesitant, and nervous. If you find yourself constantly doubting your abilities, comparing yourself to others, and feeling anxious about your worth, you might be dealing with insecurity.

How to Overcome Insecurity?

To overcome your insecurities, you must first become self-aware. Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and doubts. This self-awareness helps you to work on your insecurity. 

Write about all kinds of insecurities that make you doubt yourself. Identify all your flaws and try to assure yourself that you’re going to work on your insecurities which helps you to gain a healthy and confident mindset.

Let’s take an example

You are a fat person and being fat makes you insecure. Now you have to think and ask yourself a simple question. “Does being fat feel good to me?”.

Am I okay and love my body? or is this insecurity only about what people think?  

If you want to see yourself as a fit person in the future being fit makes you feel happy and good. then start working on yourself by hitting the gym, and a good healthy diet, etc. 

After Putting in effort when you see a little difference in your body it feels like wow.

Now let me describe that feeling. During the Process, you’re still Fat but the feeling of putting in the effort and seeing a minor result feels like you are fit already. Now you don’t feel insecure anymore.

Now ask yourself how is that possible?

Because your mind is saying to you “Keep putting in regular efforts, after a few months your body will be in shape and fit. 

You are not yet fit but due to your mindset, you already feel fit and confident.

Let’s Take another Example from the Movie BALA 

In the movie Bala, there is a character whose name is Bala. Due to his premature baldness, he felt insecure and always wearing a wig, The thing is wig makes him feel confident but it’s a temporary solution.

He wants real hair on his head so he starts putting effort, trying everything possible to grow his hair back e.g., hair cutting, oiling, Home Remedies, trying to do a lot of experiments on hair which is possible. But he failed.

Due to his baldness, he lost his love of life, people make fun of him in the office. Even he sticks a tape on half a mirror to avoid facing his reflection and the reality of his baldness.

Now Imagine you are Bala, putting your best efforts to work on your insecurity, but you failed. 

Now what’s your next step? Ask yourself.

At the end of the Movie, Bala gets a lesson to love himself with the same baldness. 

Sometimes it happens that things are not working out in our favor. It doesn’t mean you have to make yourself feel guilty, just accept yourself as you are.

There is one more character in the same movie whose name is Lathika Trivedi. She has dark Skin tone since childhood and in school, students used to make fun of her skin tone calling her “Kaali“(black).

Yeah, she gets upset and insecure but when she becomes adult and mature she accepts herself as it is. She became a confident, educated girl. 

I know it takes time for acceptance. Take your time and overcome your insecurity from people’s judgment, thinking negatively about yourself, feeling nervous, anxious, and hesitate to talk, these things are overcome only through mindset and acceptance. But if it’s possible to change your personality and remove your insecurity by putting in the effort, Do it.

Set small Goals, Track your progress, and celebrate your victory along the way, These small wins contribute to building your confidence over time. If you experiment and it fails, don’t worry, try another thing. Don’t be harsh on yourself in the progress journey. Try to find out your strengths. What makes you feel confident, what qualities help you to overcome your insecurities?

Try to find out the role models who are going through the same issues. Studying the journey of those who have overcome insecurities can provide valuable insights and motivation.

Surround yourself with positivity, with supportive and positive people who uplift and encourage you. Healthy relationships always support you and help in boosting confidence. You might have friends who try to help you whom you keep sharing why you are insecure and they suggest you some good ideas to overcome and try to encourage.

Final Thoughts

To overcome insecurities, start by becoming self-aware and understanding your doubts. Identify what you can change and take action towards improvement, like adopting healthier habits. For things you cannot change, focus on self-acceptance. 

Surround yourself with supportive people and learn from others who have faced similar challenges. Remember, overcoming insecurities is about both self-improvement and embracing who you are.