Being alone is a choice that a person makes. When someone spends time alone, it often means they’ve tried socializing but didn’t fit in or due to various personal reasons they choose, being alone doesn’t mean a person is lonely. Personally, I started being alone because I felt my thoughts did not match with those around me, or I just wasn’t with the right people. It might sound strange, but I stopped talking to many people. Once you start and feel good about spending time alone, there’s no going back. At this stage, there’s little chance I’ll make new friends and I barely talk to anyone.
Interestingly, whenever a reel about being alone appears in my feed—like someone eating alone in a restaurant, shopping alone, going on a ride, or doing their favorite activities solo—I feel inspired. I started doing these things myself. It makes me feel confident, free, and enough on my own.
People often choose alone time because those around them don’t match their vibe. However, when these individuals meet someone who does, they love having a companion. Who wouldn’t want a good friend circle to spend quality time with?
Perks You Get While Spending Time Alone –
Joy of Being Alone
Finding Peace
Life is often Hectic, alone time helps you to heal and relax and you’ll understand your thoughts and feelings better. Think of it’s a break for your mind.
Helps to Focus on Creativity
I found many creative people enjoy being alone. Alone time helps them to inspire and work better with their new ideas.
Personal Growth
Getting to know yourself
When you are alone, it helps to explore yourself and what you like. It’s like a conversation with yourself and learning new things about your personality.
Not Need to Depending on Others
When you learn to enjoy being alone, you feel more confident and capable. You don’t require others to make you happy and that’s a powerful feeling.
Additionally, after being social for a long time, people may need a break and choose to be alone. Just like social exhaustion, being alone for too long can lead to feelings of loneliness and boredom. At that point, people crave someone to share their thoughts and life with. Some people prefer long-term solitude and don’t want friends or company, while others struggle with loneliness.
For example, I find it hard to make new friends because I’m a little afraid of new interactions. I haven’t contacted old friends in a long time. When I feel down, I tend to disappear or ghost people. I know it’s not ideal, but it helps me to heal. On Saturdays, I often feel bored. I open Instagram to scroll through reels, and I check WhatsApp but find no messages. How can I expect texts when I haven’t replied to any? I haven’t talked on the phone with anyone in ages. I open Snapchat, but it’s been 4- 6 months since I last opened a snap from anyone. It sounds silly but then I wonder, “Why do I feel so alone?”
When Being Alone Turns into Loneliness
Feeling Alone
First thing, it’s important to know the difference between choosing to be alone and feeling lonely because you have no one to talk to. So sometimes, being alone can make you feel sad and disconnected from others.
Not Balancing Alone Time
Feeling Alone for a long term can hurt you. It can turn into sadness and loneliness. So it’s important to balance alone time with spending time with others.
Balancing Alone Time And Socializing
Finding Balance
You can enjoy your alone time if you find a balance between being alone and spending time with others. Make sure you have time for your friends and family, but also for yourself.
Interaction with Peoples
Good talk and connections with a few people can make your alone time fulfilling and there is less time that you feel bored while spending time alone, you need a good balance baby.
Six Best Things To Do When You Feel Lonely
| Activity | Description |
|---|---|
| Play BGMI with friends | BGMI is a gaming platform where you team up with friends or strangers. Teaming up can make you feel less lonely. But sometimes you find too much toxicity and makes you feel more lonely. So I prefer to find some good teammates. |
| Join Discord for Community | Discord is a place where you can join groups to chat about your favorite topic, there are different types of servers according to your interest, you can join and talk to different people who have similar interests like you. |
| Watch YouTube Podcast | YouTube has many podcasts on different topics. Watching or listening to podcasts can keep you entertained. |
| Practice Mindfulness and Meditation | You can watch any YouTube video for meditation or you can use apps like Headspace or Calm for guided meditation. Meditation can help you stay in present moment and manage feelings of loneliness. |
| Start a Blog or YouTube channel | Sharing your thoughts, experience, and interests through blog or YouTube channel can help you connect with people who appreciate you and your content. |
| Plan for Your Future | Use your alone time to set goals and make plans for the future. Having a future plan gives you a sense of purpose and excitement. |
Can Boredom Be Good?
Using Boredom
Boredom isn’t always bad. When you’re bored, you might start thinking of new and creative ideas. You might find new ways to have fun or be productive.
Turning Boredom into Action
Instead of seeing boredom as a problem, use it as a chance to do something new. Start a hobby, learn a new skill, work on your pending projects. Boredom can push you to achieve great things.
Social Media’s Impact
Always Connected
Through social media, we’re always in touch with others. This can make being alone feel less because we are often online all the time. But too much social media can take away from the joys of being alone.
Feeling Left Out
Seeing other people’s lives on social media can make you feel FOMO ( fear of missing out). This is damn important to take a break from social media and focus on real-life interactions and experiences.
Things to do when you want to spend time alone (time when you not feel lonely just want to enjoy your company)
| Activity | Description |
|---|---|
| Have a Fancy Dinner for yourself | You can dress up and prepare a meal just for yourself. Set the table with candles and enjoy your meal. Don’t forget to take some good pics with different poses. |
| Host a Solo Dance Party | Choose your favorite music and dance like nobody’s watching. Create a good playlist and listen while alone in the living room. Great way to boost your mood. |
| Write a Letter For Your Future Self | Take your Diary and write a letter to your future self. You can write the bucket you want to do and set a date to open it in the future. I personally found this the best way to write what you want from your future self. |
| Stargaze | If it’s a clear night, find a nice spot outside to lay down and look at the stars. Bring a blanket and maybe some snacks, stargazing can be a peaceful and awe-inspiring experience. |
| Random Acts of Kindness | You can go outside, feed some street dogs, you can buy some groceries and help those who need, and donate items you no longer need. |
Being alone is not boring; it’s a comfort zone. Choosing to spend time alone can be empowering and liberating. It allows you to recharge, focus on creativity, and grow personally. However, it’s important to balance alone time with social interactions to avoid feelings of loneliness. Embrace the joy of being alone, but also stay open to meaningful connections. Whether you’re finding peace, boosting creativity, or planning for the future, being alone can be a fulfilling and enriching experience. Remember, it’s about achieving balance and figuring out what suits you best.